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The Head of His Family

A Jon Post

I’ve known Pedro for about 8 months now. He first arrived with his 15 year old son who had a cancerous lump on his neck/shoulder. I even wrote about him and his son, Antonio a few months ago when Antonio had surgery on his tumor.

Antonio received 6 months of chemotherapy, had 2 surgeries, and was pronounced cancer free. He went home.

Pedro and Jon last June (Pedro wearing a shirt Jon's dad sent)

Pedro and Jon last June (Pedro wearing a shirt Jon’s dad sent)

3 months into Antonio’s stay at the hospital, Pedro noticed his right leg swelling and a pain high on his right thigh. A few weeks before Antonio was discharged and sent home we found out why Pedro’s leg was bothering him.

Cancer. Lymphoma.

Antonio went home 3 months ago, Pedro stayed and began his own treatment.

I’ve spent quite a bit of time with Pedro. Talking about Christ, about his family, about his childhood, his farm…

In quiet moments of honesty, we’ve spoken about being fathers. He has confessed his frustration, his weariness and his silent grief that, though he is the leader and protector of his family, he is here…  600 miles away from the people who need him most.

3 weeks ago his daughter, <**edit** she was 24 years old and had two small children**>, grew very sick. Coughing, fevers, extreme exhaustion…

Pedro’s wife took her to the hospital where she was admitted with tuberculosis. Pedro and I wept and prayed together often as he agonized over his inability to care for his sick daughter. We prayed for her health, we prayed for her mother, we prayed for his family.

Pedro’s daughter died last night.

She stopped breathing in her sleep.

And Pedro didn’t get to say goodbye to his precious girl.

It is with Pedro’s permission that I write his story here. These next few days he will be struggling with an extremely private suffering and I was hesitant to make it so public.

But he asked for your prayers.

We scrambled today to get him home, even planning at one point for me to simply drive him the 600 miles to his house. For a few family reasons it worked out better for him to take a bus, so I accompanied him to the bus station to get his ticket. I’ll be driving him to the bus stop at 2 AM tomorrow so he can start his journey at 3 AM and probably get home by 9 or 10 PM.

It’s a long trip.

And he’s asking for anyone who reads this to pray with him.

Please… please pray specifically for the Pascheco family. Pray that they mourn well. Pray that they remember their daughter and sister fondly. Pray that their knowledge of the fellowship of Christ’s suffering increases their hunger for Him. Pray that they rest.

 

Would you Pray?

A Layne Post

Hey guys, can you do something for me? Can you pray for Jon this week?

Since coming to Mozambique, Jon has developed eczema on his hands. When we were home on furlough it cleared up, but upon our return it is back, spreading, and worsening. Last night he had a hard time sleeping from the outbreak on his hands. It flares up, calms, and round and round.

Awhile back Jon saw a dermatologist here and got a steroid cream, however, those aren’t good to use for extended or frequent periods of time. We’ve read lots of information, tried a few creams, and observed dietary things. Our rockstar moms have mailed some ointments/lotions. We are still waiting on a few and will try them when they arrive. It sounds like you just have to find what works for you. Well, could you be praying we find what works for Jon? Better still, that he would healed.

Thanks so much for your love and support. Jon and I sat in our living room this morning talking about you, how we miss you and feel a little disconnected from you, our supporters. I’m not sure if you all are feeling the same way. Let us know if there is anything you’d like to hear about or see through photos and we’ll see what we can hook you up with.

A video house tour is coming soon. I can’t believe we never let you tour our new house through video, and now we’ve been here more than a year! (Honestly, I hadn’t finished my curtains and was embarrassed, but they are done now and have been for awhile.)

Love from Mozambique!

2 of the sweetest girls on earth!

My growing girls!

 

 

 

Life, Coke, and Chocolate

A Jon Post

“Don’t forget these.”

I tell myself that in, paradoxically, the times we have at the hospital that are filled with either the sting of death or the victory of life.

Last week it was during the victory of life.

14-year-old Edson was about to begin the 14 hour bus ride back home after a visit to oncology here in Maputo. He lived here for a year from December 2010 to December 2011 with his mother and baby sister. We know them well. Edson and his mother were back (his baby sister is old enough to stay with the grandmother and father this time) for a follow-up visit to check to see if the cancer was growing back. Edson had just received the good news that, after the two weeks of staying in a hospital bed waiting for the results, the sonogram test to check for cancer came back clean.

He was free to go!

We had all been expecting and praying for this result but it was good to have the paper in hand to show it. He was leaving at 3 AM the next morning.

On a whim I asked him if he wanted to go for a ride with me to celebrate. We’d go down to a big department store on the beach, walk around and just have a good time saying goodbye.

In my car and to the store we went!

Edson with Anaya Last Year Before He Left

Edson with Anaya Last Year Before He Left

Have I mentioned that Edson wants to be an engineer when he grows up? He wants to design buildings and talks about how he loves to draw and design them already and how, in school, all his classmates come to him and ask him to draw them something when there is a drawing assignment. I told him about how my dad and brother are both engineers and that they design bridges! He was astounded as I told him how they design them to cross huge waterways and tower over landscapes. When I bragged on my younger brother for his integral contribution to the design and construction of one of the biggest bridges in Canada his eyes got huge and his grin wide. He told me he wanted to design the biggest building in Mozambique!

I sprung for a couple bottles of Coke and a couple chocolate candy bars and we went and sat at the beach drinking our cold Cokes and eating our chocolate, talking about his favorite movie, “Homen Verde” (It’s “Hulk” for you English speakers, “The Green Man” as it translates from Portuguese), how there’s a new one with The Green Man in it called “The Avengers” and how well he does in Math class at school. He doesn’t like his Portuguese class and prefers to stick to the science and math subjects.

On and on the conversation went, mingling moments of life’s victory into what has felt recently like a time of death’s sting.

“Don’t forget these.” I told myself again. “These moments are equally as important as the moments we are honored to accompany someone to eternity’s door.”

These moments, moments of life, Coke, and chocolate, are the echoes of the good news that awaits us on the other side of that door. Without these moments, we would have nothing from which we could reference the hope we have for something exponentially better. It is in these moments that Christ’s smile is reflected.

“Don’t forget these.” I told myself… not for the last time.

Sing Along

A Layne Post

Sing Along – Passion Worship Band

From babies hidden in the shadows
To the cities shining bright
There are captives weeping
Far from sight
For every doorway there’s a story
And some are holding back the cries
But there is One who hears us in the night

From the farthest corners of the earth
Still His mercy reaches
Even to the pain we cannot see
And even through the darkness
There’s a promise that will keep us
There is One who came to set us free

Great God
Wrap Your arms around this world tonight
Around the world tonight
And when You hear our cries
Sing through the night
So we can join in Your song
And sing along
We’ll sing along

Tonight was fried chicken night. Jon recently bought the new Passion Worship Band CD, so I had it cranked up as I worked. Grease sizzled and popped and I sang, prayed, and worshiped with a heavy heart.

This week was my first week back at the hospital alone since Jovie was born. I left both girls with Jon and spent a couple quality hours visiting with some ladies. It was the first time in a long time I felt like I connected, though it has left me burdened all week. The hospital is in one of those cycles we talk about, a season of suffering and death. Just when I think I’ve seen it all, something new shocks me.

Cancer.

I hate it. It robs so many of dignity.

Tuesday I watched as a lady tried to swallow water laying on her back, turning her head slowly from side to side trying to help it pass the rock, which was her tongue covered in sores, and then past the tumor growing beneath her chin. I wanted to help, but there was nothing to do. I prayed. I pray.

A mom lay in bed with her seven year old daughter changing the cotton soaked with blood from her nose every minute or so. The worry was tangible, no words necessary.

Friday I chatted with a lady whose left breast was a tumor the size of a large cantaloupe (at least the visible part was that size). She just wanted to see and meet my girls. Anaya had a poopy diaper, but it was worth the extra 5 minutes to pick her up from Jon and meet this lady, to bring a smile for a passing moment. The woman next to her was on her forearms and knees due to horrible pain in her stomach, but when my girls came in she managed to sit up, smile, and talk to them… then get back to her quiet moans.

It is good to be reminded that we serve a great God who hears their cries, even in the night, who wraps His arms around them, who sings over them, and ultimately who sets them free.

And I have the privilege to join Him in that.

And so do you.

Will you join us?

Sing for Isabel, Joana, Julia, Celina, Samuel, Rui, Pedro, Almeida, Edson, and so many more.

Until I Pass

A Jon Post

As we’ve written before, what we do seems to have a strange and painful rhythm. We see times of joy, rest, and friends recovering from cancer. Then the waves crash back unto a shore washed clean of disease… pain returns… death finds a way.

And we write another story like this.

I didn’t know Moisés very well. I talked to him a few times after he arrived three weeks ago but didn’t have any time to sit with him personally and hear his story. He was laying in his bed when we first met, one face among three new ones. I knew his roommate well, and was surprised to see all 3 new patients there that day. I introduced myself and was pleased to meet new friends and file new names into my head and hope to remember them later.
Moisés sat, shook my hand, and smiled as I told him who I was and why I was there. We shared a few words and spoke of where we were from and  then I entered a conversation with another friend in the room.
I saw Moisés other times as I’d pass through but we never spoke privately.
Until last monday.
I had actually been planning on spending time with a roommate of Moisés who was receiving chemotherapy that day. When I entered, there lay Rui on chemo and there sat Moisés coughing blood. The weight of the two men’s suffering bore down hard on me as I passed the threshold into that room.
Rui could barely talk and lay on his bed with a pounding headache. Moisés looked at me and started talking about his pain. Because he was coughing so much it grew hard to understand him. As he spoke and I strained to hear, I heard the end of a sentence… “I’ll do this until I pass.”
He kept coughing.
I prayed desperate prayers, pleaded for mercy from a merciful God, and tried to keep my voice steady.
A peace swept the room. My words slowed and trust fell on us all soft enough to not make any noise but hard enough to drive our fears out of our hearts. Moisés breathed deeply, Rui gripped my hand tightly, and I breathed an amen. Christ’s hand rested on us and we sat together wordlessly.
I stood up, encouraged both men to rest, and left.
Later that night Moisés sat in a chair next to his bed, put his arms on his bed, put his head down and stopped breathing.

So we write these stories and we wonder whose we will write next.

For now, we pray to the God who holds life and death in His hands, and we trust those hands.

Please pray with us. Pray that lives are not lost, that hope is not forgotten, that Christ is known and that hearts find strength.

Please pray that we hold fast.